Sacrifice that leads to Satisfaction

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As hard as sacrifice is, it is often something that becomes an expectation as we move on in life.  As commitments develop for our kids, jobs, friends, and spouses and communities, making sacrifices to honor all of those commitments become a part of everyday part of living.  When not put in perspective, however, the sacrifices we make to help others can become a heavy load to carry. When the load becomes a burden it can leave you overworked and underpaid.  Finding the right outlook can give a boost to the heavy lifting of sacrificing and avoid the resentment that comes from feeling underappreciated.

One of the main reasons sacrifice can lead to dissatisfaction is because of the expectations we have when we make them.  As an employer I see the exhaustion in people’s face when they make sacrifices for recognition or reciprocation and then ultimately feel disappointed when they do not get the result they anticipated.  The hard thing in life is really accepting that the only person you can control in life is you.  By making the choice to sacrifice your time or energy or effort for someone or something else, the only guaranteed result is what you are in control of…yourself.  No amount of sacrifice is guaranteed to be appreciated or even recognized by someone else.  If you can tie your sacrifice to your own goals and desires, however, you reach the goal just in making the sacrifice.  Work is a great example as if you make daily sacrifices for your job in your time and effort.  If you do so for a raise or for a good evaluation you may end up running on empty.  If instead you make it about you from the beginning, honoring your own work ethic or the desire to do your best in anything you do, you become the scale for the sacrifice and in determining if it was worth it. With that base, any external recognition becomes the icing on the cake of a job well done.

Changing your perception on making sacrifices is one part of becoming more satisfied in the sacrifices in you make. In all honestly sometimes getting the recognition we want from others gives us the fuel to proceed in putting others needs in front of our own.  Although the recognition that is deserved may be difficult to guarantee, you can get better understanding from those you sacrifice for with honest communication.  Often sacrificing and silence are tied together.  We link them so that when you sacrifice you expect nothing in return.  I certainly do not think after making sacrifices you should go around with a bullhorn shouting out how great the sacrifice you made is, but it is also wrong to expect others to understand that your actions were indeed a sacrifice.  Anticipating others to know what is going on in your head or with your priorities is a mistake.  If you want someone to know what you did or why then you have to be share.  Although appreciation or reciprocation may not be the result, sharing your experience opens the door to teaching others about sacrifice and your personal experience.

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