2017 brought disappointments and failures and 2018 may seem like an opportunity to wipe the slate clean. So up goes the lists and vision boards of everything that will be brand new in 2018. New work out goals, new boos, new focus, and new wins. But somewhere in the midst of the excitement and plans for all things new we forget the valuable losses that are equally important as we head to a new year. Yep I do mean failure and inside each and every one is a gem more valuable than all the new new you can load in your New Year’s cart. Sometimes in trying to move on to something better we can purposefully forget the losses that can provide the true insight to get the things we desire.
The appeal of a new year is like a new present, often looking forward to something shiny with all the external trimmings and trappings. So we can all too quickly turn the page with the expectancy that suddenly everything will be different. At the root of it, this option can be a lot easier than admitting the opportunity to start over not only comes every year, but with every rise and fall of the sun. Yes the opportunity to start a new was there for 2015, 2016, 2017, and 2018, indeed it is there every day of your life. So where does the fulfilled promise of a new future really stand? I think it lies in part in a collection of lessons from the past. Taking the time to welcome and accept your failures so you can see the landscape for what it was. Yes missed opportunities, yes to not working as hard as you could have or lacking the consistency to win. In each of the sore spots from the last year can be a bright spot for your New Year and new life.
So how do you get back down to the lessons that the past year has brought you. For me it begins with a simple list. Making a top ten list of the biggest failures from 2017 in all their ugly glory. First give yourself and opportunity to let it all out. Let it all out, who did you wrong, what opportunities did you miss, what relationships failed to nurture any positivity. Next think of how you could have changed things. This means just you, not anyone else as you are all you can control. If you could have been more proactive write it down, if you could have been more understanding then write that down too and if you just need to accept things and people better then there is also a line for that. Finally In all these find a way that things could have both gone better and gone worst. The key in this exercise is to tap into the power you have every day to see things different, do things differently and appreciate the crazy ride call life while you still have an opportunity to get in on the game.